Hello friends, I am glad to be back here after a full and rather emotional weekend.
Yesterday we said the final goodbye to a very dear aunt of mine. She had been sick and in failing health for a long time, so in a way it was a blessing that her suffering was over. Yet every goodbye like this, is so final that no matter how or why, it still hurts.
And then in the evening we had new friends over for diner. Friends we haven’t known that long yet, but who have found a way into our hearts and life so fast and so good that it feels as if they have always been there.
A weekend of loss and gain at the same time.
So what is a girl to do with so many different emotions at the same time playing havoc in her head. Exactly! Start fluffing and playing and creating beauty and some order out of things that are familiar and comforting.
I started playing my favorite sport of table setting……
Setting a table like this, for a simple dinner with good friends, is so comforting. I had no idea what I was going to do with this one. No theme or idea in my head before I started. So I just took it from where I always start, with the basics, choosing the background.
I tried out a few combinations of tablecloth with runners or placemats but none ‘did it’ for me, until I combined the crisp white with the black. That started talking to me…
So I rummaged around in my kitchen cupboards to see if I could come up with enough whites, and blacks and combo’s to make this work.
A quick label of chalkboard vinyl made an old pitcher just right for the job.
And when I went down to the basement to look for some candle sticks I grabbed the mirror off the wall on my way back.
No table scape without flowers, I took some white tulips out of a mixed bunch and clipped some greens from the garden. I really like the contrast of the greens with the black and white theme. It definitely would have gotten a little boring without it.
Playing around with my ‘toys’ like this was so comforting. Decorating always does that for me. The more turmoil there is going on in my head (and there is plenty of that at the moment), the more I need some order and beauty around me.
Funny now that I am looking at the pictures and I see how this table decoration turned out I can see that this black and white table setting was a perfect representation of my mood. The contrast between the dark and the light, the heavy and the airy, the cold colors and the warm greens. I didn’t realize it at the time.
Like most of my decorations it came about instinctively. The start is always difficult and I am usually not sure where I am going – if anywhere - in the beginning. Then I add that one element that makes it click and I can see the theme, the rhythm starting to come alive. And then it is just a matter of continuing to add things until I feel that that last item was too much and I take it out again and it feels done.
So do you have routines that you turn to when you need some comfort? What is it for you that quiets the mind? How do you ease the turmoil in your head?